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The Chapel Hill Friends Meeting joyfully embraces the full spectrum of the Light Within, made visible through the participation of people of all beliefs, cultures, backgrounds, abilities, ethnicities, races, sexual orientations, and gender identities. Quakers, also known as members of the Religious Society of Friends, are a community of people who gather on Sunday mornings to worship in silent expectation to wait upon the spirit. We have no formal creed, no ritual, or liturgy.

We believe that God is present in every person and the Light Within can lead us toward God’s will. The Religious Society of Friends has a long history of spiritually-based activism. We are guided by communal testimonies of simplicity, peace, integrity, community, equality, and service. We believe that Truth is continuously revealed and that everyone may have a direct experience with God. Our lives speak our faith in action.

Branches of Quakerism

There are multiple branches of Quakerism, such as evangelical, conservative, pastoral and liberal. The Chapel Hill Friends Meeting indentifies itself as liberal. Liberal Friends emphasize the authority of the Inward Light which guides each of us in our lives and is our direct and immediate experience of the Divine.

Our Meeting is also unprogrammed. That means we have no minister and no set service - no sermon, doxology or choir. There is an old saying “that we have no laity, because we are all ministers.”

To learn more about the various branches of Quakerism, see: Quaker Branches in the Americas

The Meetinghouse (what we call our place of worship) is located at 531 Raleigh Road, Chapel Hill NC 27514. It is located near the intersection with Country Club Drive near the UNC-CH campus. Raleigh Rd. is also Route 54. There is a UNC-CH visitors’ parking lot east of the Meetinghouse that is available for free parking on Sunday mornings. There are some parking spaces adjacent to the Meeting house in our parking lot. We are a two minute walk from the Institute of Government and from the old Chapel Hill Cemetery. There is a bus stop just west of the Meeting house on South Road across from the Institute of Government.

Yes, anyone is welcome to visit a Quaker meeting. Our meeting specifically encourages individuals to become part of the corporate experience of Quaker faith and practice.

We believe that there is that of God in every person, and joyfully embrace the full spectrum of the Light Within, made visible through the participation of people of all beliefs, cultures, backgrounds, abilities, ethnicities, races, sexual orientations, and gender identities. Those attending unprogrammed Quaker meetings include Christians, Universalists, Jews, nontheists, Muslims, Hindus, Buddhist Quakers, pagans, and others.

Meeting for Worship is the heart of our Quaker community. The Chapel Hill Friends Meeting is of the Quaker unprogrammed tradition, meaning that we gather in silence and “expectant waiting for divine guidance”, without clergy or liturgy. Together we nurture a living silence, with quiet minds and open hearts, creating a space within ourselves for spiritual revelation. More information is available in the following videos:

A Quaker meeting is a local worshiping community. Most meetings have few paid workers; the Chapel Hill Friends Meeting employs a First Day School (Sunday School) Coordinator and a Child Care Provider. Quaker meetings follow the guidance of the Spirit in business as well as in worship.

Quaker meetings function by the service of members on committees. These volunteers handle the routine work of the meeting and prepare business that comes to the entire group for Spirit-led decision making in the Monthly Meeting for Worship with Attention to Business. Everyone is welcome to participate in the work of the meeting.

Advices

Extracts from minutes and epistles of early Friends intended to supply guidance, caution and counsel to monthly meetings and their members on various aspects of daily life.

Attender

A person who worships regularly with Friends but has not joined the Religious Society of Friends.

Benevolences

The Chapel Hill Friends Meeting makes donations to organizations or charities that support our Quaker values.

Birthright

Until the late 1940s a person who was born to a Quaker family automatically became a member of the Society by right of birth, hence birthright. Nowadays an application must be made to become a member of the Society. Since then the term has come to be used more loosely to describe any Friend born of Quaker parents.

Care and Counsel

The committee tasked with pastoral care in unprogrammed Meetings. This includes the formation and supervision of clearness committees, a unique and confidential process open to those who seek corporate assistance in reaching clarity in a decision. Friends form Clearness Committees for a number of reasons including membership considerations, marriage under the care of the meeting, and difficult discernments.

Centering or Center Down

The initial stage of worship when Friends clear their minds and settle down to achieve a spiritual focus.

Christocentric

A Quaker whose inspiration is essentially Christian.

Clearness

A process undergone to discern true leading, especially in ambiguous or complicated situations. Friends often work with clearness committees when struggling with a difficult issue.

Clerk

A person appointed by a business meeting or committee to take a meeting through its business; the only officer of most meetings (as there are no clergy); the person charged with making and keeping the records of the meeting (including the records of births, marriages, and deaths). The clerk’s role is to serve as an honored servant of the meeting and, whilst revered, is not an authoritarian position.

Committee

A group of Friends who gather to work on a Meeting-related task.

Concern

An idea or prompting by the Inner Light which leads a Friend to take on an issue as a personal crusade. Friends consider carrying out a concern to be a form of ministry. Often there may be a meeting for clearness to test the concern after which the Meeting may well support the person in their concern. Many well-known organizations, such as the American Friends Service Committee, Don’t Make a Wave Committee (the predecessor organization to Greenpeace), Oxfam and Amnesty International, have been founded by Friends “acting under concern.”

Continuing Revelation

A central Quaker belief that the revelation of the inner light is an ongoing process.

Convener

Usually applied to a person who is responsible for the organization of a one-off meeting for business.

Convinced Friend

A historical term for those Friends who were not born into Quaker families, but who came to Friends because of Quaker teaching and practice. The process of deciding to become a Friend is known as “convincement.”

Convincement

A discovery of truth, as in “Quaker by convincement”, one who has become convinced of the truth of the Quaker way. It is used to describe anybody who joins the Society.

Eldering

The process of gentle redirection of a person back onto the path of right ordering.

Epistle

Quaker gatherings often send a report of their deliberations to other Quakers. The best known example is the Yearly Meeting Epistle. They often start “To Friends everywhere…”

Facing Benches

Older meetinghouses often have benches on a raised platform which face the rest of the congregation where Weighty Friends (see below) who might be expected to speak would sit. Historically (and in some meetings still) these would be the recorded ministers and elders.

First Day

Quaker term for Sunday

Friend

A member of the Religious Society of Friends (Quakers). We get our name from the original title of “Friends in the Truth.” Our first loyalty is to Truth. Quakers often refer to themselves collectively as Friends and will address a Quaker as “Friend” if they don’t know the person’s name.

Gathered Meeting

A meeting for worship, where those present feel that they were particularly in tune with the leadings of the Inner Light/spirit.

Hold in the Light

To recognize concern in one’s self for another person or situation. This is often considered to be synonymous with praying for someone.

Lay down

The action properly taken upon a committee or meeting that is no longer needed; “to lay down” a meeting is to disband.

Lay over

To allow time to pass before action on a consideration, in hopes of obtaining clearness; i.e., “the transfer of Mary’s membership has lain over for one month.”

Leading

A prompting thought to be received from the spirit; a course of action, belief or conviction that a Friend feels is divinely inspired. It can turn into a concern. A leading may arise from a concern.

Lift Up

To emphasize or make explicit a particular point or concern.

Meeting

A term used in different contexts, and thus, confusing. It can be as shorthand for Meeting for Worship, or it can refer to a meeting of Quakers that has gathered for business and administrative matters, for example: Preparative Meeting, Monthly Meeting, Quarterly Meeting and Yearly Meeting.

Meeting for Worship

The great mystery of Quakerism: what happens in Meeting for Worship? We don’t actually worship using a liturgy, agreed words or ritual in the way that other traditions do. Quakers believe that when we gather together in silence we can engage in a direct and personal relationship with what goes by terms such as God, Inner Light, etc. (But we disagree on its nature!)

Meeting for Worship with Attention to Business

A meeting for business administration and decision making.

Meetinghouse

A place where Quakers gather for worship, though not the only place that they may do so.

Membership

What you request when you decide to join Friends.

Ministry

Many Friends use the term broadly to mean living the testimonies in everyday life. Vocal ministry refers to the act of speaking during a Meeting for Worship.

Ministry and Worship Committee

The committee charged with overseeing the worship and the spiritual support of the Meeting. Individual Friends are also encouraged to carry this concern.

Minutes

These are the record of the proceedings of a business meeting written by the clerk or convener of that meeting. Quaker minutes are written and agreed to as the meeting proceeds with its business.

Monthly Meeting

What a standard congregation of the Religious Society of Friends will call itself. It designates how often they meet for business, not how often they meet for worship.

Opening

A term often used by early Friends to designate a spiritual opportunity or leading.

Outrun One’s Guide

Used to describe actions or words that while a Friend started within the Light, they then go beyond that guidance.

Peace Testimony

The corporate commitment of Friends to pacifism and nonviolence.

Plain Dress/Speech

The witness of early Friends to the testimonies of equality and integrity by dressing and speaking simply. These served into the 20th century as outward symbols and reminders of our distinctive beliefs.

Preparative Meeting

Preparative meetings are smaller meetings that join in the meetings for business of a larger monthly meeting. They are “designed” to grow into monthly meetings.

Proceed as Way Opens

To undertake a service or course of action without prior clarity about all the details but with confidence that divine guidance will make these apparent and assure an appropriate outcome.

Programmed

Describes a Meeting for Worship that has an order of service and is led by a pastor. Two thirds of Friends world-wide belong to Yearly Meetings that hold programmed meetings. Also known as a Pastoral Meeting.

Quaker

Originally a pejorative name for a member of the Religious Society of Friends, now a title worn with pride and probably more widely known by the public than the more correct term of Friend.

Quaker Faith and Practice

A book which seeks to express in words the workings of the Spirit as experienced by Quakers over three hundred fifty years. It is both an anthology of Quaker thought and guidance on the right ordering of Quaker affairs. It is revised every generation to reflect the continuing revelation and understanding of the Spirit.

Quarterly Meeting

Quarterly meetings are made up of a number of monthly meetings and meet quarterly for business and worship.

Queries

A set of questions, based on Friends’ practices and testimonies, which are considered by Meetings and individuals as a way of both guiding and examining individual and corporate lives and actions. As such, they are a means of self examination.

Recording Clerk

The person appointed by a Meeting to take minutes at regular and called meetings for business of a Meeting or other Friends body.

Released Friend

A Friend whose leading to carry out a particular course of action has met with approval from a Meeting which then promises to provide such support as would enable the Friend to follow that leading.

Religious Society of Friends (Quakers)

The correct title of the organization to which Friends/Quakers belong.

Rise of Meeting

This phrase describes the end of worship in an unprogrammed meeting, usually signaled by a designated Friend shaking hands with a person next to him or her.

Seasoning

A period of waiting, where action is not taken because the “way” has not yet “opened” or some other “stop” is felt.

Sense of the Meeting

clerks of committees and Meetings are tasked with discerning the “sense of the meeting” that develops over the course of a Meeting for Worship with Attention to Business; to capture (and at times record) any truths or decisions in which those present have come to unity.

Speak Truth to Power

From Larry Ingle’s article “Living the Truth, Speaking to Power” as published in Chuck Fager’s The Best of Friends, Vol. 1, Kimo Press, 1998: “The phrase ‘speaking truth to power’ goes back to 1955, when the American Friends Service Committee published Speak Truth to Power, a pamphlet that proposed a new approach to the Cold War. Its title, which came to Friend Milton Mayer toward the end of the week in summer 1954 when the composing committee finished work on the document, has become almost a cliche; it has become common far beyond Quaker circles, often used by people who have no idea of its origins.

Speaks to my condition (speaks my mind)

A phrase commonly used during meetings for business to express that another Friend has spoken what is in the mind of the speaker; used to help add weight to the statements of others.

Standing Aside

Among Friends, this phrase is used during meeting for business when the speaker does not agree with the decision being made by the meeting, but does not sense that they should stand in the way of the decision moving forward.

Testimonies

The cumulative lived witness of generations of Friends. They include community, equality, integrity, peace, simplicity.

Testing a concern

A process of deliberation by a Monthly Meeting to examine whether a Friend’s concern has validity and should be promoted and supported by that meeting.

That of God in everyone

The belief in the presence of God within all people. Also referred to as the Inner Light.

Threshing

A gathering of Friends to consider in depth a controversial issue but without the necessity of reaching a decision.

Under the care of the Meeting

When couples wish to be married under the care of a meeting, the meeting appoints a clearness committee to ascertain that both are free to marry, that any difficulties or objections are worked through, and to advise the meeting that the marriage can proceed with no known impediments. At least one person in the couple must be a member of the Religious Society of Friends for this type of marriage to be legally recognized. If neither are members, then the couple may be married in the manner of Friends, but they must also hold a civil ceremony for the marriage to be legally recognized.

Under the care of…

Describes an activity, program, or event for which a Meeting takes responsibility and to which it gives oversight: thus, a marriage, a preparatory meeting, specific programming, or a school might be said to be under the care of a monthly meeting or a committee of that meeting.

Unity

When coming to a decision, unprogrammed Friends must be in unity. This is not consensus, no vote is taken, and a single dissenter means the “motion” cannot be approved. Clerks of meetings and committees are designated to “discern” the sense of the meeting. A Friend can stand aside to allow the motion to move forward, even if they do not personally agree and wish to have that recorded in the minutes.

Universalist

A Quaker who believes that there is a universal truth that may be found in all faiths.

Unprogrammed

Describes a Meeting for Worship where all ministry and prayer is inspired by the Spirit rather than by a predetermined order of service.

Weighty Friend

One who is influential (i.e.: their opinion carries weight) within the Society (while remaining consistent with our testimony on equality, of course); a Friend who is respected for their experience and ability over their history of participation with Friends, whose opinion or ministry is especially valued.

Witness

To testify to or take action based on religious conviction, often at some personal cost. Bearing witness to one’s beliefs through action is central to Quakers’ practicing their faith and is a direct expression of their faith.

Worship Sharing

A group practice in which participants share personal and spiritual experiences, thoughts, and feelings, often in response to a prearranged theme or questions, and in a manner that acknowledges the presence of the spirit.

Yearly Meeting

1) A regional group of Friends composed of several Monthly Meetings. 2) A yearly gathering of Friends, usually located on a small college campus, for business, workshops, worship, etc.

When we enter the meeting room, we quietly take our seats on the benches. During the hour or so of worship, anyone who is moved by the Spirit may rise and speak. After an hour, a designated member of the Meeting closes worship with a handshake, which is then shared with all those gathered.

There is some parking in front of our Meeting House. If our lot is full, there is always plenty of parking in the UNC lot next door (which is free on Sunday mornings).

Finding your way around is easy. A little before 11am on Sunday you will see people going in the front door of our Meeting House. Just come in and sit down.

Casual, comfortable clothing is the norm at the Chapel Hill Friends Meeting. You’ll see folks in shorts and t-shirts, dresses, and jeans, depending on their personal preferences and comfort.

You may sit anywhere in the meeting room.

At the close of worship, folks who are new to the meeting are invited to introduce themselves. No one is required to do so, however. This is an opportunity for the meeting to get to know you and to welcome you.

No offering is taken during the worship service, and there is not an expectation that you will make an offering when you visit the meeting. Of course, the work of the meeting does require support of the Meeting community. There is a box in the foyer for donations with a list above that box describing specifically how Meeting funds are used.

Absolutely! Children are an important part of our community. We offer care for babies and toddlers downstairs in the Meeting house during the weekly 11 AM Meeting for Worship. For children aged three through high school, we have a First Day School (FDS) program (First Day is a traditional Quaker term for Sunday).

You might want to come a few minutes before 11 AM to talk to the greeter at the front door about how to find the right class for your child. Most children sit with their parents for the first 15 minutes of Meeting for Worship, and then leave together for their classes next door in the school house building.

You are welcome to join them for First Day School on your first visit to our Meeting, so you can meet the teachers and see what the class is like, or if it makes your child more comfortable.

First Day School Brochure

At Chapel Hill Friends Meeting, there are a multitude of options for those who wish to engage in our community beyond simply attending Meeting for Worship. Here are some possibilities: September through May, three Sundays per month, the Adult Religious Education committee sponsors forums at 9:45 AM on topics of community interest. List of Forums.

On the first Sunday of each month, there is a community potluck after Meeting for Worship. Come join us!

Attendance at the monthly Meeting for Worship with Attention to Business is an excellent way to experience Quaker ministry in process. Generally held at 9:00 AM on the third Sunday of the month, the Meeting Calendar will provide information about the dates of these important Meetings.

There are about 16 committees in our Meeting community, that carry out the work of the Meeting. Nearly all of them are open to anyone with a like-minded interest. List and description of committees.

Often in the spring, interest groups begin that allow community members to study together, work on a project, or socialize. Topics vary widely, as does the frequency and duration of the group. To be kept up-to-date on such opportunities, subscribe to the listserv by emailing news@chapelhillfriends.org.

Please feel free, after looking at the resources listed below, to see if we have them in our library. We do have most Pendle Hill pamphlets and current copies of Friends Journal. Resources may be checked out for three weeks.

Chapel Hill Friends Meeting Library Chapel Hill Friends Meeting Quakerism 101 Class Readings Quaker Information Center: Resources for Deeper Investigation Quaker Information Center: Introductory Booklist

Yes! Contact a member of our Ministry and Worship Committee with your questions. We would love to talk to you!

A casual meet and greet with refreshments is available after Meeting every Sunday in our library, which adjoins the meeting room. It’s a good time to get to know people.

Please make a nametag in the foyer so that we can know you better.